For You

It has been said my Blog has been getting a wee bit too focused on Madonna lately. Well I guess your right…but….can you blame me!?!?! So here is a topic I will address; cheating. Everyone seems to do it, so why is it a surprise when the other finds out?

No matter who you are, you can’t tell me you have never thought about being with another person. Whether it has been something as little as damn he/she looks fine, or I wish I could be with that person, we have all wanted what we do not have. It is human nature. So why do people act so surprised when the other comes clean and says they are not happy with the relationship and wants out. You know everyone in that relationship knew there were problems, but no one wanted to address their unhappiness until it was too late.

There have been debates on what is cheating, is it the act of actual sex, or is there such thing as emotional cheating. Where a guy or girl can build a friendship towards another and the relationship can grow stronger than the committed relationship. Is that cheating or just becoming friends? Are you allowed to become good friends with someone when you are in a relationship? Is your other supposed to be your only best friend?

If that is the case, then anyone who is in a committed relationship and has a strong friendship with someone of the opposite sex could be deemed cheating on their spouse. Is that right? I don’t think so, but since I am single I get the benefit of having lots of strong friendship with lots of people of the opposite sex.

I have been through girlfriends who have cheated on me and I guess at some point I knew there was a problem with our relationship, so when we had the talk it wasn’t a huge surprise when they told me they cheated. Don’t get me wrong I was pissed, but I wasn’t surprised. Cheating is cheating, what ever you think it is. No one is going to define it for you. If you think talking to the other sex is cheating then that is your definition, no matter how stupid it may be. But I will say, when body fluid is swapped that is usually a good indicator of cheating.

Peace,
DeMo